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They say ‘the quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask yourself’. As a strategic-designer-turnt-coach who has completely transformed her life pursuing this work, I can absolutely vouch that.
Prior to having created the best job of my life (being° coaching) I never:
Contemplated my dreams
Thought about my desires
Imagined my future
Words like ‘purpose’ and ‘legacy’ felt as foreign to me as the thought of me pronouncing ‘Worcestershire’ correctly.
Back then, my chronic people-pleasing habit had me pleasing all 7,976,875,618 people but myself—which left me with zero knowledge about who I am and what I want.
Planning to meet with a friend typically sounded like this:
🧑🏼🦰 Friend: “Do you want to come have dinner at mine or go out?”
👩🏽 Me: “I’m easy—what do YOU want?”
While I much prefer for her to choose because what makes her happy makes me happy (🚩)—I knew I didn’t want to go to a loud place, and I didn’t want her to cook if she was tired.
I started noticing this pattern that I don’t seem to know what I want, but I often know what I don’t want. This was not helpful. It’s like calling a cab and having this interaction:
🚕 Cab driver: Where do you want go?
👩🏽 Me: “I don’t know—just don’t take me to the airport”
'If you don't know where you want to go, then it doesn't matter which path you take.'
Lewis Carroll
We can get clear on the most honest aspect of who we are by examining our:
Core values
Natural strengths
Most passionate interests
Answers to quality questions that invite us to stretch our imagination
Below is a set of questions to help you get clear(er) on your meaningful goals. This will allow you to better understand what’s really important to you.
Access and duplicate the Notion Template
Your answers don’t have to be 100% clear and accurate—the mere act of taking part in this reflection will begin to make visible the pixelated image of your dream, and you’ll be able to create a higher-resolution that will be a map to your future.
From a pixelated dream
To a hi-resolution dream
Artwork by Sarita Walsh
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