So I "failed"


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Storytime:

Back in January, I was looking for ways to be a better thinker.

My partner—who happens to be a best-selling author and an incredible thinker—said to me:

“If you want to think more clearly, write.”

Being the spontaneous multi-passionate creative force that I am, I—with little delay—committed to a 30-day challenge called ‘30 days of writing’ (a derivative from my previous ‘30 days of being’ project).

I announced this to my community on IG to create accountability for myself, and off I go being in action.

I never finished the challenge.

I stopped writing at day 9—and below are the insights I gained from the experience.


What I noticed:

  • Being in action—without overthinking—allowed me to quickly find that writing 30 short-form pieces doesn’t provide me the desired support.

  • I noticed that the brevity of the format led me to spend more time contemplating what to write, than actually writing.

  • Additionally, sharing my work with the community on Instagram created unnecessary pressure and effort in the process.

  • The focus on meeting the daily writing challenge became a distraction from the goal of consistently showing up and writing.

  • To establish a daily writing routine, the process in which I create must be simple and easy.

  • Most significantly, I realised I wanted to think more critically rather than solely expressing my thoughts clearly. This realisation created a shift in my writing approach and goals.


Did I know most of these insights prior to this experience?

Yes.

And knowledge is only a rumor until it is in the muscle.

The quality of my ‘knowing’ before this experience is not the same as the one I, now, have in my being.


What I did instead:

  • Instead of persisting with the 30-day challenge, I called it off and focused on writing about the insights I gained.

  • I dedicated 10 minutes to private writing for 30 days. This allowed me to focus on my thoughts without the pressure of sharing them immediately.

  • I said YES to podcast interviews to stimulate my critical thinking in a different format.

  • I actively engaged in rich dialogues with highly intelligent people to broaden my perspectives.

These alternative actions reflect a shift in my approach, prioritising personal growth, deeper reflections, and meaningful interactions over the previous writing challenge format.


So did I fail?

My previous self would have nodded aggressively and said:

“Yes, this is failure.”

My current self, though, would smile and say:

“This is feedback!”

I, now, know the importance of viewing setbacks and mistakes as valuable opportunities for learning and growth.

Instead of perceiving a situation as a failure, seeing it as feedback allows me to extract valuable lessons, make adjustments, and move forward with improved understanding and insight.

This perspective encourages me to embody resilience, adaptability, and a positive attitude towards challenges—fostering my personal and professional development.


My biggest takeaway:

Action creates clarity that goes beyond mere information—and encompasses a deeper understanding of the world and oneself.